Episode 56: Facing Fear and Enjoying the Crap Outta Life: A conversation with Lauree Ostrofsky

Episode 56: Facing Fear and Enjoying the Crap Outta Life: A conversation with Lauree Ostrofsky

We often think fear is designed to keep us safe.  When you shift focus you may find it’s that very fear that keeps each of us from living out our dreams. Perhaps we misunderstand fear’s purpose and message. It’s uncomfortable to be in relationship with fear so we tend towards making choices that allow us to avoid fear altogether, that keep us safe (and playing small). The thing is, that our fears cloud our ability to enjoy the crap out of our lives. Fear and joy coexists simultaneously, constant companions.  We don’t eventually become unscared.  Instead, we learn to feel the fear and move forward anyway.

 

Episode 55: Owning your Shit in Love: A conversation with Shane Birkel

Episode 55: Owning your Shit in Love: A conversation with Shane Birkel

Couples come to therapy for a myriad of reasons. But often, the real reason why they’re showing up is the thing hidden underneath their reasons.  The solution is nearly always found in holding a magnifying lens up in those moments of conflict and, as this week’s guest Shake Birkel says, “owning our shit”. Suddenly, “Why is he/she doing this to me?” shifts into an opportunity to sit with our emotions and recalibrate our connections.

 

Episode 54: Am I Normal? Talking about Sex: A conversation with Megan Torrey-Payne

Episode 54: Am I Normal? Talking about Sex: A conversation with Megan Torrey-Payne

Sex is a difficult topic for most of us to discuss.  What we like, what we don’t like, where the edges of our boundaries are, what is normal and what isn’t, what our children need to know and when… And yet, it is such an all-encompassing thing in what it means to be human, it has roots and ties in nearly every facet of our existence.  Ultimately, what we all secretly want to know is, “Am I normal?”

 

Episode 53: Intensive Restructuring: A conversation with Adam Smithey

Episode 53: Intensive Restructuring:  A conversation with Adam Smithey

What could you accomplish with your clients in just one weekend?  This week’s guest, Adam Smithey, dares us to dream “outside the box” into what is possible: how we can make the most impact, what our clients are really asking us for, and how we can better integrate our work into our everyday lives.  For him, that means being a stay-at-home dad during the week and running couples intensives on the weekends.  Adam finds that he is able to complete six months of work with his couples in just two days.

 

Episode 52: Carefrontation In The Present Moment: A conversation with Tom Murray

Episode 52: Carefrontation In The Present Moment: A conversation with Tom Murray

“Our thoughts create our suffering” is not an uncommon idea.  But what does that really mean for our relationships, our past traumas, or the present realities?  In this episode, Rebecca talks with Tom Murray, a sex and couples therapist in Greensboro, NC, about the significance of the present moment, and what it proves about truth and endurance.

 

Episode 51: Cultural Competency for Helpers: A conversation with Natalie Overton

Episode 51: Cultural Competency for Helpers: A conversation with Natalie Overton

When we are working to make a positive impact in a community, who is being left out of the conversation?  Who isn’t being seen?  Empathy starts with relationships and the mirrors those relationships hold up for us.  When we are interested in joining in the conversation of diversity and inclusivity, it can be challenging to know where to start, how to jump in, or who to ask for support. It feels scary.  No one wants to do it wrong.  But what relational work teaches us is that by looking at ourselves, with curiosity and self-compassion, we begin to expand our understanding and move out of our stuckness.

 

Episode 50: American Collective Consciousness: A Conversation with Molly Merson

Episode 50: American Collective Consciousness: A Conversation with Molly Merson

This conversation undulates between the current state and issues within our collective consciousness as Americans living in today’s social and political climate to the individual in how we deal with self-reflection, trauma, and loss--beautifully illustrating the now proverbial rally cry, “The personal is political.”

Rebecca and Berkeley-based therapist Molly Merson, MFT cover it all, from our political “parents” to our collective infancy on the internet, to grief and loss and metabolizing trauma, capitalism and gift-giving culture, community mindset and collaboration, to technology, parenting, psychoanalytic theory, and the choices we have in suicide versus end-of-life.  It all comes down to what we are able to hold and how two minds metabolizing together can disrupt repeat patterns. 

 

Episode 49: Intentions and New Pathways: A conversation with Benjamin Reisterer

Episode 49: Intentions and New Pathways: A conversation with Benjamin Reisterer

In our ever increasingly more technology-driven world, it is becoming even more imperative that we drop down into our physical bodies to understand what we feel and notice how it shows up for us in our bodies.  There is so much information to be had in our sensory and intuitive experiences, if we’ll only take the time to notice it.  And this information can show us not only how we react or respond to others, but also how we can shift cultural paradigms.