Being Seen is a practice of holding yourself accountable. Accountable to your shadows, your secrets, the shame you are accustomed to. The stories that make up how you relate with others and how others see you. In order to see these stories, you need a safe space to hold you...so that you can dive in and practice being seen.
Why are we fearful of being seen?
Is it fear of judgement? Are we afraid of being seen as a weak? Not good enough?
To hold a healing space for others you must be accountable to your own process too. You carry your own wounds and shame stories. You strive for connection. You struggle with being vulnerable.
As you peel the layers back of your shadows, secrets and shame stories you very well may observe pieces of yourself that don’t feel good.
And in this struggle to see yourself, you feel resonance with the same feelings you see in others. Your clients.
Overwhelmed by the feeling, you can’t sit with yourself, you struggle more. And you do so in one of two ways. Either inwardly or outwardly. You aren't alone. We all face this struggle.
It’s important to share your process with an inner circle. A trusted inner circle. A space you can consult with before putting your vulnerable work into the world. This is an often forgotten part of the being seen process. You need to see yourself and, in order to do so, you need to share yourself with others and allow them to see you. It’s in these moments of reflection that you both see yourself and also heal. We grow in a collective as our connections deepen.
And so begins the Practice of Being Seen.
Observe your pattern. Observe your struggle. That act of observation will inform your path.
Ancient wisdom tells us that the way of least resistance often lies in the willingness to look inward.
In ourselves we see everything.
Fear, anxiety, and shame are powerful teachers. They inform us when it’s time to slow down and pay attention to our path. Without them we’d forever function on autopilot.
When you can allow your own feelings to be your guide, you'll experience more creativity in the stories you tell (yourself and others). And this is how you'll connect and heal, through playing with your feelings and story.
It’s really that simple.
We stagnate when we block off our feelings. When we live in a state of shame, anxiety or fear. We get paralyzed. Over patterned. Rigid. Stuck in our ways. And we lose the creative flow.
So how to get the creativity flowing?
Oh, this is going to sound so counter-intuitive. You can’t fight it. You can’t try to create harder. You can’t DO anything. In fact, you have to do less. And experience more. In short, you simply slow down and sit with all the feelings.
Allow in the overwhelm and the flood. Allow yourself to observe yourself. Your patterns. In seeing yourself, you'll also see deeper into others.
Because you see everyone through the lens of seeing yourself. You have one way of interacting with the world. It’s what you know.
So, how well do you know your lens? What are you afraid of? What do you fear? What shame stories do you hold? How would being able to sit with these pieces of yourself allow you to better see accurate representations of yourself in your relationships with others?
My mission; to nurture the nurturer.
In nurturing you we create more space for you to hold and nurture yourself, your family and the people in your community. In order for you to be able to really hold space for others, you need to hold space for yourself. And it helps to not have to do that alone.